Friday, November 11, 2005
I'm weird:
Well, today was a less pleasant day. I rolled into Alumni Club Schaumburg to practice my game. On that front, I guess I did well. Until Tuesday, I was terrified of sarging solo. Tonight, I had some hesitation, but I went out right after my workout, so I think I'm brave enough to go solo. In fact, I'll probably hit Alumni Club on Tuesday and Thursday next week for more practice. I ran into Dave (the Dave from Tuesday), but we didn't open that many sets together.
I took about 20-30 minutes to warm up today. I walked around the place when I got there. There weren't that many people. About ten minutes after I got there, I ran into Dave. We BSed for a few minutes and then I told him that I needed to open one set before I'd be as bold as I was on Tuesday. I opened up a two girl set using the "Would you date a guy that lived in a tent?" opener. The fact that I love that opener probably should have clued me in immediately. I'll reserve judgement on that opener, but the two times I used it, I didn't get very far in the set. This first time had two chubby 6's. I said, "Can I get a female opinion on something?" One girl said, "Sure," and I responded, with the question. They both answered that they wouldn't date a guy that lived in a tent. I tried to tease that about their answer by asking if they'd date a buy that lived in Barrington (a rich area near the bar). The same girl who said, "Sure" earlier said the following to me, "Did you use that line to try to pick us up?" I said, "No, we had read about this ladies man that lived in a tent, and we wanted to know if women would actually date such a guy." They laughed and then went back with their friends.
Later, Dave and I decided to open this set of older women (women in their late 30's) that we had spotted earlier. Well, I should say that we talked about it, but Dave ended up going up to the blonde. I then followed a few seconds later and started talking to her brunette friend. I found out that they were visiting from Wisonconsin, but were married. I decided not to give up like I would have done in the past, so I continued to talk to the brunette. Dave looked like it was doing well, so I kept up some talk with this brunette. About 5 minutes later, though, I see him eject from the set for some reason. I decide to keep talking.
I used "ESP" test and "The Cube" on this woman, and I'm wondering if that's where I screwed up. I lead to the number ESP test by asking if she believe in ESP. I then guessed her numbers, or at least she made it look like I guessed her numbers. I then said that since she did so well, I wanted to try "The Cube." She agreed and then I ran her through it. Afterwards, she said that I should try it on her friend, but I tried the line that I had heard on ASF. I said that I wasn't a travelling psychic, but I might try it later. I said that I couldn't be as accurate with the blonde because I hadn't been talking to her the entire time like I had with this brunette. The blonde ended up getting some beers, and actually offered to buy me one. I accepted and then tried to go into the "Strawberry Fields" pattern. I only got halfway through before the brunette said that she had to go to the bathroom. The blonde then agreed and they bailed. I then went to open other sets.
The only set of some significance was a HB7 blonde with glasses and her friend, a HB7 with short brown hair. I find out that the blonde is visiting from out of town. I tried a cold read that the brunette was the party girl, and the blonde was the quiet one. The blonde then said that I had the reads reversed and said that I probably thought she was conservative because of the glasses. I then BS with them for about 5 minutes. The started talking about Vegas, which I thought was good considering that was I topic I could talk about. Things fizzled for whatever reason, and they left.
By this time, the bar was almost ready to close. I walked by the married set and saw a guy talking to the blonde. I decide to try to reopen this set by talking to the brunette. The bar then announces last song. When that ends, we are still standing there. The guy suggests we should all go somewhere after this. As they are thinking about it, the guy introduces himself to me. He says his name is Mario, but his friends call him Mars. He suggests the city, but the two women protest about that suggestion. Mars and I mention Dakota's and they seem interested in going there as it is close. The blonde seemed like she wanted to party, but the brunette was hesistant and suggested that she wanted to call it a night. Mars had told me he had a 12 pack so when the brunette said that they were considering going back to the hotel, I suggsted that we should all go there and watch TV and hang out.
I'm not sure if the mistake was made with this suggestion, or with my "Cube" and "Strawberry Fields" patterns. Anyways, we ended up deciding to go to Dakota's. I was riding in Mars's car, but then I asked what I should do with my car. He said I should get it and they would wait for me. I then ran back to get it while they waited. Here is another possibility. Mars might have AMOG'ed me, but I'm not convinced of this. I get my car and drive up front and they are still there. Mars opens his window and then tells me, "Bro, I have bad news. The darked haired one thinks you're wierd."
I wasn't sure what to think, but I followed Mars anyway. They pulled into a Shell gas station that was near Dakota's. As I pull up, Mars tells me the same thing. He's like, "You can go talk to them, but they said that they think you're weird for some reason. Sorry." I decide to go talk to them before I give up. This is the point where I decided that Mars probably wasn't BSing me. When I got up to the car, the two didn't want to roll down their windows. When I motioned for them to roll down, the brunette did, but only rolled the window down a crack. I asked, "What's up? Is it true what Mars told me." (In retrospect, that was a mistake too, but oh well). She said, "We're going home."
I then admited defeat and got in my car and left. The light took awhile to change, and I saw them still sitting there so I figured I had messed up in some way. The light changed and I headed home and I saw the cars of Mars and the two women pull into Dakota's. While these women were married and weren't that hot, I have to admit that this chain of events still hurt. I know that I'm not supposed to care and am supposed to press on, but it does hurt. Why was I weird?
I'm supposed to go out with Jason Friday, and maybe Saturday also, so I guess I'm going to try some more sarging. When I start to get depressed, I try to think of what TD wrote in a post that one the Bristol Lair site. I believe he said that it took him a few months before he was even able to make out with a chick at the club. It was only after that before things started getting easier. I guess I have about 3-6 months more of crap like tonight before I start to get some closes, but again, tonight was discouraging and painful. I'm trying to focus less on the pain and more on what I learned from tonight. Part of the problem, is that I'm having a harder time recognizing my mistakes. Friday, last week, I realizes some of the big mistakes I had made, but tonight I'm not so sure. I keep refering back to TD's 25 Points list to see where I could improve. Tonight, I only leaned in an said, "What" once, so I think I'm improving that area. I made sure to stand straight up most of the time. I guess I'll reread it again and try to figure out what other mistakes I made.
P.S. I'm thinking that I shouldn't drink at all at the bar. I don't think I'm getting that drunk, but I definately wasn't sober either. Maybe that's affecting my game.
Well, today was a less pleasant day. I rolled into Alumni Club Schaumburg to practice my game. On that front, I guess I did well. Until Tuesday, I was terrified of sarging solo. Tonight, I had some hesitation, but I went out right after my workout, so I think I'm brave enough to go solo. In fact, I'll probably hit Alumni Club on Tuesday and Thursday next week for more practice. I ran into Dave (the Dave from Tuesday), but we didn't open that many sets together.
I took about 20-30 minutes to warm up today. I walked around the place when I got there. There weren't that many people. About ten minutes after I got there, I ran into Dave. We BSed for a few minutes and then I told him that I needed to open one set before I'd be as bold as I was on Tuesday. I opened up a two girl set using the "Would you date a guy that lived in a tent?" opener. The fact that I love that opener probably should have clued me in immediately. I'll reserve judgement on that opener, but the two times I used it, I didn't get very far in the set. This first time had two chubby 6's. I said, "Can I get a female opinion on something?" One girl said, "Sure," and I responded, with the question. They both answered that they wouldn't date a guy that lived in a tent. I tried to tease that about their answer by asking if they'd date a buy that lived in Barrington (a rich area near the bar). The same girl who said, "Sure" earlier said the following to me, "Did you use that line to try to pick us up?" I said, "No, we had read about this ladies man that lived in a tent, and we wanted to know if women would actually date such a guy." They laughed and then went back with their friends.
Later, Dave and I decided to open this set of older women (women in their late 30's) that we had spotted earlier. Well, I should say that we talked about it, but Dave ended up going up to the blonde. I then followed a few seconds later and started talking to her brunette friend. I found out that they were visiting from Wisonconsin, but were married. I decided not to give up like I would have done in the past, so I continued to talk to the brunette. Dave looked like it was doing well, so I kept up some talk with this brunette. About 5 minutes later, though, I see him eject from the set for some reason. I decide to keep talking.
I used "ESP" test and "The Cube" on this woman, and I'm wondering if that's where I screwed up. I lead to the number ESP test by asking if she believe in ESP. I then guessed her numbers, or at least she made it look like I guessed her numbers. I then said that since she did so well, I wanted to try "The Cube." She agreed and then I ran her through it. Afterwards, she said that I should try it on her friend, but I tried the line that I had heard on ASF. I said that I wasn't a travelling psychic, but I might try it later. I said that I couldn't be as accurate with the blonde because I hadn't been talking to her the entire time like I had with this brunette. The blonde ended up getting some beers, and actually offered to buy me one. I accepted and then tried to go into the "Strawberry Fields" pattern. I only got halfway through before the brunette said that she had to go to the bathroom. The blonde then agreed and they bailed. I then went to open other sets.
The only set of some significance was a HB7 blonde with glasses and her friend, a HB7 with short brown hair. I find out that the blonde is visiting from out of town. I tried a cold read that the brunette was the party girl, and the blonde was the quiet one. The blonde then said that I had the reads reversed and said that I probably thought she was conservative because of the glasses. I then BS with them for about 5 minutes. The started talking about Vegas, which I thought was good considering that was I topic I could talk about. Things fizzled for whatever reason, and they left.
By this time, the bar was almost ready to close. I walked by the married set and saw a guy talking to the blonde. I decide to try to reopen this set by talking to the brunette. The bar then announces last song. When that ends, we are still standing there. The guy suggests we should all go somewhere after this. As they are thinking about it, the guy introduces himself to me. He says his name is Mario, but his friends call him Mars. He suggests the city, but the two women protest about that suggestion. Mars and I mention Dakota's and they seem interested in going there as it is close. The blonde seemed like she wanted to party, but the brunette was hesistant and suggested that she wanted to call it a night. Mars had told me he had a 12 pack so when the brunette said that they were considering going back to the hotel, I suggsted that we should all go there and watch TV and hang out.
I'm not sure if the mistake was made with this suggestion, or with my "Cube" and "Strawberry Fields" patterns. Anyways, we ended up deciding to go to Dakota's. I was riding in Mars's car, but then I asked what I should do with my car. He said I should get it and they would wait for me. I then ran back to get it while they waited. Here is another possibility. Mars might have AMOG'ed me, but I'm not convinced of this. I get my car and drive up front and they are still there. Mars opens his window and then tells me, "Bro, I have bad news. The darked haired one thinks you're wierd."
I wasn't sure what to think, but I followed Mars anyway. They pulled into a Shell gas station that was near Dakota's. As I pull up, Mars tells me the same thing. He's like, "You can go talk to them, but they said that they think you're weird for some reason. Sorry." I decide to go talk to them before I give up. This is the point where I decided that Mars probably wasn't BSing me. When I got up to the car, the two didn't want to roll down their windows. When I motioned for them to roll down, the brunette did, but only rolled the window down a crack. I asked, "What's up? Is it true what Mars told me." (In retrospect, that was a mistake too, but oh well). She said, "We're going home."
I then admited defeat and got in my car and left. The light took awhile to change, and I saw them still sitting there so I figured I had messed up in some way. The light changed and I headed home and I saw the cars of Mars and the two women pull into Dakota's. While these women were married and weren't that hot, I have to admit that this chain of events still hurt. I know that I'm not supposed to care and am supposed to press on, but it does hurt. Why was I weird?
I'm supposed to go out with Jason Friday, and maybe Saturday also, so I guess I'm going to try some more sarging. When I start to get depressed, I try to think of what TD wrote in a post that one the Bristol Lair site. I believe he said that it took him a few months before he was even able to make out with a chick at the club. It was only after that before things started getting easier. I guess I have about 3-6 months more of crap like tonight before I start to get some closes, but again, tonight was discouraging and painful. I'm trying to focus less on the pain and more on what I learned from tonight. Part of the problem, is that I'm having a harder time recognizing my mistakes. Friday, last week, I realizes some of the big mistakes I had made, but tonight I'm not so sure. I keep refering back to TD's 25 Points list to see where I could improve. Tonight, I only leaned in an said, "What" once, so I think I'm improving that area. I made sure to stand straight up most of the time. I guess I'll reread it again and try to figure out what other mistakes I made.
P.S. I'm thinking that I shouldn't drink at all at the bar. I don't think I'm getting that drunk, but I definately wasn't sober either. Maybe that's affecting my game.
