Friday, November 11, 2005
Lessons learned after all:
After pondering things all night and sleeping, I think I did learn some things from last night:
-I might as well start going after the hotter girls as I get shot down with fat ones, older ones, and average ones.
-A corollary to that point is that I didn't talk to the girl that I found most attractive in the club. Early in the night, I saw this tall, skinny blonde standing with two less attractive friends. I had pointed her out to Dave and he actually thought she wasn't that hot. This shows that I still like blondes even though I try to convince myself that I like brunettes now. I think I'm trying to like brunettes because Beata was a blonde. Anyways, I should have tried to open that set. I probably would have gotten shot down, but who cares? At least I would have tried against the hottest girl in the club
-I think I need to stop drinking. The last two times, I have to admit that I was drunk even though I didn't think so at the time. I think that does hurt my game. The thinking in ASF is that drinking does mess up your game and you shouldn't do it. Time for me to start following it again. When we went out for Halloween, I didn't drink at all, I did okay considering it was my first real time out trying this stuff.
-I need to start DHV (demonstrating high value). As I understand it, part of this is showing confidence and make sure not to make any of the mistakes on TD's 25 points list. Another part of this is story telling. The thing is that the only interesting story I can think of is the sneaking into Bodyworlds story. I guess I have to draw from experiences farther in the past or make shit up.
-I'm sure that I'm failing to generate positive emotions in these girls. Thinking back about some of the conversations, I think I was falling back into the typical fact talk that AFC's do. When I had the blonde with glasses & brunette friend set talking about partying and Vegas, I should have made them desribe the feelings that their stories generated in them.
-I keep finding faults in my game, which is good as I am supposed to be learning. I do have to kept myself from being too hard on myself. I have to remember that I only really made progress beginning at the Halloween party. Where I hardly made any approaches prior to that, I am now making multiple approaches a night. While I used to only approach lone wolfs, I'm now approaching two sets. While I used to eject right away, I am following the ASF mantra (Make the ho' say no.) The set ends when I get rejected, usually by the girls walking away.
-I need to start approach 3 and 4 sets.
-I'm AMing with a friend right now, and she asked me how many approaches I've made total. I'm going to keep my count as accurate as possible from now on. Not that it really matters, but I'm still trying to decide what I should count as an approach. I'm not sure if I should count the real quick ones as actually approaches. Meaning, if I try to talk to a girl and she walks away, is that an approach? I'm thinking that it is.
-I'll put myself at roughly 25 approaches since Halloween. I should be doing that many a day. LOL.
-I need more day game. The day game is supposed to be easier as girls are expecting pickups at bars and they put their shields up. I'm having the problem that many experience which is that I'm brave at the bar, but still shy for day game.
After pondering things all night and sleeping, I think I did learn some things from last night:
-I might as well start going after the hotter girls as I get shot down with fat ones, older ones, and average ones.
-A corollary to that point is that I didn't talk to the girl that I found most attractive in the club. Early in the night, I saw this tall, skinny blonde standing with two less attractive friends. I had pointed her out to Dave and he actually thought she wasn't that hot. This shows that I still like blondes even though I try to convince myself that I like brunettes now. I think I'm trying to like brunettes because Beata was a blonde. Anyways, I should have tried to open that set. I probably would have gotten shot down, but who cares? At least I would have tried against the hottest girl in the club
-I think I need to stop drinking. The last two times, I have to admit that I was drunk even though I didn't think so at the time. I think that does hurt my game. The thinking in ASF is that drinking does mess up your game and you shouldn't do it. Time for me to start following it again. When we went out for Halloween, I didn't drink at all, I did okay considering it was my first real time out trying this stuff.
-I need to start DHV (demonstrating high value). As I understand it, part of this is showing confidence and make sure not to make any of the mistakes on TD's 25 points list. Another part of this is story telling. The thing is that the only interesting story I can think of is the sneaking into Bodyworlds story. I guess I have to draw from experiences farther in the past or make shit up.
-I'm sure that I'm failing to generate positive emotions in these girls. Thinking back about some of the conversations, I think I was falling back into the typical fact talk that AFC's do. When I had the blonde with glasses & brunette friend set talking about partying and Vegas, I should have made them desribe the feelings that their stories generated in them.
-I keep finding faults in my game, which is good as I am supposed to be learning. I do have to kept myself from being too hard on myself. I have to remember that I only really made progress beginning at the Halloween party. Where I hardly made any approaches prior to that, I am now making multiple approaches a night. While I used to only approach lone wolfs, I'm now approaching two sets. While I used to eject right away, I am following the ASF mantra (Make the ho' say no.) The set ends when I get rejected, usually by the girls walking away.
-I need to start approach 3 and 4 sets.
-I'm AMing with a friend right now, and she asked me how many approaches I've made total. I'm going to keep my count as accurate as possible from now on. Not that it really matters, but I'm still trying to decide what I should count as an approach. I'm not sure if I should count the real quick ones as actually approaches. Meaning, if I try to talk to a girl and she walks away, is that an approach? I'm thinking that it is.
-I'll put myself at roughly 25 approaches since Halloween. I should be doing that many a day. LOL.
-I need more day game. The day game is supposed to be easier as girls are expecting pickups at bars and they put their shields up. I'm having the problem that many experience which is that I'm brave at the bar, but still shy for day game.
