Monday, December 05, 2005
Sarging on hold... again :(
I was sick for basically the whole Maui trip. By the last day, my cold was almost entirely gone, but I got greeted with another illness when I woke up Saturday evening. I guess sarging is on hold until I recover from this cold. In the meantime, I'm just going to focus on working and on reading mASF.
Self-limiting beliefs:
Seamas told me today that he convinced one of his friends to come out sarging with us in late December. This friend, Pablo, I'll call him, says he'll come out but he doesn't feel too confident about Alumni Club Schaumburg even though it's about 2 miles from his house. He said that Alumni is filled with suburban girls that only car what car you drive. Now that I'm well-versed in theory, I recognize this as a self-limiting belief. First, his statement is just plan wrong because girls in the club have no idea what car you drive. I could drive a POS or a Ferrari and they wouldn't no the difference unless I told them. If I drove a Ferrari and went out of my way to point that out, it would come across as arrogant. Second, even if the girls are money-hungry, that shouldn't affect our game. The idea is that if you're game is tight enough, you'll be able to pick up all types of girls.
My self-limiting beliefs exposed:
As I mentioned in an earlier entry, I've been finding a ton of boring girls at Alumni Club lately. On Friday, I used that as an excuse to eject. Now that I've had some time to think about it, I realize that I must plod through the set and take it as far as I can. Even if I'm gaming a girl that's not that interesting, I should be able to close her if my game is good enough. The game doesn't rely on the girl being interesting; it depends on me working my game well enough to get her attracted to me. Sure, boring girls wouldn't be good for long term relationships (LTRs) but they are fine for practicing game and even #closing. I'm totally sure I wouldn't might if I had a lay report to write after I hooked up with some boring girl at Alumni Club. To make that happen, I must put myself in the frame that I will pick up these girls because I have a lot of offer them. Even if they are boring, I'm so cool that I'll get them to open up to me :)
My ex keeps bugging me to go to the Polish clubs in Chicago. I've had a self-limiting belief that I won't be able to game well there because the girls might not speak English as well as girls at Alumni Club. I now recognize that this shouldn't matter. After all, I dated a Polish girl for 2 years. On top of that, if I go with my ex, I can sarge and have her as a pivot (social proof). Also, I just read this thread on mASF. That near-lay report shows that you can game foreign girls in the same way as you would English speakers. That reminds me that I didn't want to go to Amsterdam with Sidegames partially because I thought I couldn't game Dutch girls. Obviously, that is not true. By writing this, I feel I am on my way to eliminating these self-limiting beliefs. When I'm over this cold, I'll try sarging at the Polish club.
I was sick for basically the whole Maui trip. By the last day, my cold was almost entirely gone, but I got greeted with another illness when I woke up Saturday evening. I guess sarging is on hold until I recover from this cold. In the meantime, I'm just going to focus on working and on reading mASF.
Self-limiting beliefs:
Seamas told me today that he convinced one of his friends to come out sarging with us in late December. This friend, Pablo, I'll call him, says he'll come out but he doesn't feel too confident about Alumni Club Schaumburg even though it's about 2 miles from his house. He said that Alumni is filled with suburban girls that only car what car you drive. Now that I'm well-versed in theory, I recognize this as a self-limiting belief. First, his statement is just plan wrong because girls in the club have no idea what car you drive. I could drive a POS or a Ferrari and they wouldn't no the difference unless I told them. If I drove a Ferrari and went out of my way to point that out, it would come across as arrogant. Second, even if the girls are money-hungry, that shouldn't affect our game. The idea is that if you're game is tight enough, you'll be able to pick up all types of girls.
My self-limiting beliefs exposed:
As I mentioned in an earlier entry, I've been finding a ton of boring girls at Alumni Club lately. On Friday, I used that as an excuse to eject. Now that I've had some time to think about it, I realize that I must plod through the set and take it as far as I can. Even if I'm gaming a girl that's not that interesting, I should be able to close her if my game is good enough. The game doesn't rely on the girl being interesting; it depends on me working my game well enough to get her attracted to me. Sure, boring girls wouldn't be good for long term relationships (LTRs) but they are fine for practicing game and even #closing. I'm totally sure I wouldn't might if I had a lay report to write after I hooked up with some boring girl at Alumni Club. To make that happen, I must put myself in the frame that I will pick up these girls because I have a lot of offer them. Even if they are boring, I'm so cool that I'll get them to open up to me :)
My ex keeps bugging me to go to the Polish clubs in Chicago. I've had a self-limiting belief that I won't be able to game well there because the girls might not speak English as well as girls at Alumni Club. I now recognize that this shouldn't matter. After all, I dated a Polish girl for 2 years. On top of that, if I go with my ex, I can sarge and have her as a pivot (social proof). Also, I just read this thread on mASF. That near-lay report shows that you can game foreign girls in the same way as you would English speakers. That reminds me that I didn't want to go to Amsterdam with Sidegames partially because I thought I couldn't game Dutch girls. Obviously, that is not true. By writing this, I feel I am on my way to eliminating these self-limiting beliefs. When I'm over this cold, I'll try sarging at the Polish club.
