Wednesday, January 11, 2006
Sidegames and Argentina:
I'm listening to "Don't Cry for me Argentina" by Madonna. Sidegames's misadventure made me want to download that song. It all started Monday night. I listened to my voice mail as I drove to the bank and sidegames left a message that said, "Cancun?" I had been talking about going to Cancun because of a cheap UA fare there. I returned the call immediately and he said he was at O'hare. He was waiting in line at the BA counter trying to see how much a ticket to LHR would cost that night. I told him not to book it because I could find him a better fare (I know crazy stuff from flyertalk.) The BA person told him a one way ticket would cost $800. Luckily for him, he decided that price was too steep. Later, I told him that it would have been real dumb to book that. A 7 day advance purchse UA ORD-LHR ticket is like $380. So for the price of two one ways, he'd almost be able to pay for a whole trip if he booked it in advanced.
Sidegames came over after the airport and I researched trips. I spent like two hours figuring out the details for Cancun. He started to get impatient because I wasn't booking anything. I got mad b/c I had spent 2 hours researching because I wanted to make sure the trip was perfect. He ended up leaving so I went to work out b/c I was sick of looking at trip information. I ended up deciding not to go to Cancun because the flyertalk threads I'd read said the beaches were horrible as most of the sand had been washed away by Hurricaine Wilma. I then toyed with the idea of going to Los Cabos. I had a trip priced out but I decided that I'd be better off waiting and spending the money on a trip to the Philippines next month. I thought it was stupid for me to fly the next day when I'm going to Gainesville on the 19th.
I ended up finding an $875 fare to Buenos Aires (EZE). I had a trip all set up that left Tuesday at 6am and went ORD-LGA-IAD-EZE. The return was a direct EZE-ORD. With my routing, he'd have 10 hours in DC. Sidesgames figured he'd rent a car. When we tried to book it, ua.com said that one of the flights were sold out. (I'm guessing it was the IAD-EZE leg as it had only one seat left in E-). He ended up booking the direct ORD-EZE flight which left at 9:25PM today. I wanted to get him on the 6am LGA flight b/c I knew he might cancel the trip if he stayed in Chicago long enough.
I drove Sidegames to the airport around 7PM and went to the gym. As I'm lifting, I get a voice mail that he decided to cancel the trip. I told him that it was fucked up that he did that. I told them to ask them if he could rebook it for $100. Supposedly he has a year to rebook the trip. I just don't understand him sometimes. He explained that he felt it was a bad idea to go to EZE spur of the moment and alone. I told him that if we book trips in the future, he better not flake out b/c I'd be pissed that I'd have to pay for a hotel alone b/c he flaked. He said he'd be unlikely to flake if I were going with him. I told him that I'll ask for a hotel deposit if he's unsure about stuff when we book.
Sarging:
I can understand where Sidegames is coming from. I used to hate traveling alone. I've travelled alone, but I've never stayed at a destination alone. I don't think I could have before I started on this PUA journey. As I said in my Hawaii entries, I learned that I can now travel alone. In Hawaii, I was able to get some new friends that bars and I probably could have fclosed HBtatoo if I had even the game that I now have.
Cadillac Ranch:
I convined Sidegames to come out sarging. I guess I felt like I needed a crutch since I hadn't been out since New Year's Eve. (I was sick for the last week.) I know my game is nearing the level it needs to be for me to start getting Day2's and lays. I just find that I'm a little reluctant to go out when I haven't sarged for over a week.
We were going to go to Alumni Club, but I saw that the main parking lot was full. I decided to go to Cadillac Ranch as I was afraid the club was going to be packed like it was two weeks ago. I also figured it would be a waste to pay cover for just a little over an hour of sarging. I didn't anticipate that we'd end up doing just that at Cadillac Ranch.
We rolled into CR at like 11:40PM. Country music was playing and I felt out of place with my Hawaiian shirt, but the new alpha me showed no signs of caring. I remember reading that club music should start at midnight, but after talking to some people, I found out that didn't start until 2am. In the meantime, I was stuck with country music and line dancing.
Line Dancing:
I wish I knew how to line dance. It seems like that would be a huge way to DHV. There were a few girls that I could have pulled to the dance floor if I had the moves. I later found out that there are a few basic moves to line dancing, but apparently each song has a different set of moves. It sounds very complicated. I guess I should remember that the next time I feel conscious about my club dancing. Dancing, though, doesn't matter. The mASF people say that one should be talking to girls instead of wasting time dancing with them.
Blonde Lone Wolf Set turns into a mixed set:
Sidegames and I were talking. I felt a little approach anxiety but I knew I would feel horrible if I made no approached. I saw this blone and brunette standing at a table. (Why does it seem like that the type of set I always run into at a club?) I see the brunette get pulled to the dance floor so I decide to approach the blone. I open with this line I thought of today, "I want to get an opinion on something. If you could go anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would you go?" I then explain that Sidegames had that choice and almost went to Argentina but then decided not to go. We ended up talking for a bit, but then Sidegames come up to me. I introduce him and then I ask him what he's doing. He says that I told him to come up to a set after I had talked for a few minutes. I then whispered in his ear, "I meant to come up if it's a two set. Just go and I'll catch up to you. You're ruining my sarge."
I continued the sarge. This Asian guy then comes up that I had seen line dancing earlier. He and the blonde start talking. I open the guy because I know I have to disarm obstacles. I compliment him on being able to line dance and I ask him how he learned. Apparently, he owns some dance studio along with some other businesses, so he gives me his card. I talk to him for a few minutes as he tells me about this stuff. Obviously, I could care less, (well I'd consider getting line dancing lessons), but you always have to do this in a mixed set. I decided to eject after that for two reasons. First, I knew Sidegames was getting bored. I shoudln't care about that, but I guess that was part of my reasoning. Second, I still don't understand how to work mixed sets. I didn't know how I could keep gaming the blonde when this obstacle was here.
In retrospect, I guess the answer is that I should have BSed with the Asian guy some more. Then, I can reopen the chick and he shouldn't cockblock b/c I've disarmed him. I guess I just have to plow through some more mixed sets to get the hang of it. I definately shouldn't have ejected b/c I was doing okay with the blonde.
Edit:
I don't feel like editing it so this flows better, so I'll just add that I threw in my Crobar story. I made a joke about me not knowing it was country night. I told the story of how I took my friend who was in the Marines at the time to Crobar on Sunday night. Fortunately for us, he showed his miltary ID to the bouncer when we were trying to get in. The bouncer then commented, "You know it's gay night tonight, right?" If my buddy hadn't shown his military ID, we would have ended up paying the cover and would have left right away.
2-Set & Wing tactics:
I saw these two cute brunettes standing near the dance floor. I opened them with a situational opener about line dancing. They said that they were just learning how to line dance. I had them giggling and then I introduced Sidegames by saying, "This is my best friend Sidegames. He's the coolest guy on the planet and if you just spend 5 minutes talking to him, you'll see what I mean." Sidegames then just stand there. I lean over and tell him to ask her about line dancing. I then start to talk to my target. I see Sidegames ask a question and then he just stood there. His target then talks to my target and I know it's busted up so I just turn to Sidegames and start talking to him.
I don't blame Sidegames as he doesn't know any better. I'm glad we went out because I learned some things that will be helpful in future sarges with wings. First, it seems awkward to have my wing just standing there. I think if we approach together, I should do an opener and then introduce my wing. The wing then should occupy his target immediately and I should start my own conversation with my target. I can only do this simultaneous approach if I have a wing that will hold his target. I have to make it clear to wings that they have to keep talking to the target otherwise she's going to start talking to her friend and I'm going to lose the set. So far, only Seamas and Colorado can do this. (I haven't gone out with Colorado since that one time at AC, but I still think he can hold a target if given the chance.) The other idea follows something I found in an mASF search. I should open the set myself and hold it for a few minutes solo. Then, the wing should walk up and I can give him a good introduction. If I've held a set that long, the wing will have more leeway as the set will realize that I'm cool. I think this is the better approach since I can hold sets pretty well for five minutes.
Opened the set again:
I see one of the girls dancing with some old guy with a cowboy hat. The friend is trying to learn the steps. I know it would be money if I went out and joined her but I couldn't do it. I then see her give up and stand by herself near the dance floor. I go up and ask her why she gave up. I then tried to talk more. She seemed like she was receptive to talking to me, but then I see the friend come by with the guy and pull my target away. :(
I'm not sure what was up there. I'm guessing that I didn't demonstrate enough value with my opener so the friend thought she had to save my target. I guess it's their loss. They don't know what they are missing out on. I didn't even get to my good routines :)
I'm listening to "Don't Cry for me Argentina" by Madonna. Sidegames's misadventure made me want to download that song. It all started Monday night. I listened to my voice mail as I drove to the bank and sidegames left a message that said, "Cancun?" I had been talking about going to Cancun because of a cheap UA fare there. I returned the call immediately and he said he was at O'hare. He was waiting in line at the BA counter trying to see how much a ticket to LHR would cost that night. I told him not to book it because I could find him a better fare (I know crazy stuff from flyertalk.) The BA person told him a one way ticket would cost $800. Luckily for him, he decided that price was too steep. Later, I told him that it would have been real dumb to book that. A 7 day advance purchse UA ORD-LHR ticket is like $380. So for the price of two one ways, he'd almost be able to pay for a whole trip if he booked it in advanced.
Sidegames came over after the airport and I researched trips. I spent like two hours figuring out the details for Cancun. He started to get impatient because I wasn't booking anything. I got mad b/c I had spent 2 hours researching because I wanted to make sure the trip was perfect. He ended up leaving so I went to work out b/c I was sick of looking at trip information. I ended up deciding not to go to Cancun because the flyertalk threads I'd read said the beaches were horrible as most of the sand had been washed away by Hurricaine Wilma. I then toyed with the idea of going to Los Cabos. I had a trip priced out but I decided that I'd be better off waiting and spending the money on a trip to the Philippines next month. I thought it was stupid for me to fly the next day when I'm going to Gainesville on the 19th.
I ended up finding an $875 fare to Buenos Aires (EZE). I had a trip all set up that left Tuesday at 6am and went ORD-LGA-IAD-EZE. The return was a direct EZE-ORD. With my routing, he'd have 10 hours in DC. Sidesgames figured he'd rent a car. When we tried to book it, ua.com said that one of the flights were sold out. (I'm guessing it was the IAD-EZE leg as it had only one seat left in E-). He ended up booking the direct ORD-EZE flight which left at 9:25PM today. I wanted to get him on the 6am LGA flight b/c I knew he might cancel the trip if he stayed in Chicago long enough.
I drove Sidegames to the airport around 7PM and went to the gym. As I'm lifting, I get a voice mail that he decided to cancel the trip. I told him that it was fucked up that he did that. I told them to ask them if he could rebook it for $100. Supposedly he has a year to rebook the trip. I just don't understand him sometimes. He explained that he felt it was a bad idea to go to EZE spur of the moment and alone. I told him that if we book trips in the future, he better not flake out b/c I'd be pissed that I'd have to pay for a hotel alone b/c he flaked. He said he'd be unlikely to flake if I were going with him. I told him that I'll ask for a hotel deposit if he's unsure about stuff when we book.
Sarging:
I can understand where Sidegames is coming from. I used to hate traveling alone. I've travelled alone, but I've never stayed at a destination alone. I don't think I could have before I started on this PUA journey. As I said in my Hawaii entries, I learned that I can now travel alone. In Hawaii, I was able to get some new friends that bars and I probably could have fclosed HBtatoo if I had even the game that I now have.
Cadillac Ranch:
I convined Sidegames to come out sarging. I guess I felt like I needed a crutch since I hadn't been out since New Year's Eve. (I was sick for the last week.) I know my game is nearing the level it needs to be for me to start getting Day2's and lays. I just find that I'm a little reluctant to go out when I haven't sarged for over a week.
We were going to go to Alumni Club, but I saw that the main parking lot was full. I decided to go to Cadillac Ranch as I was afraid the club was going to be packed like it was two weeks ago. I also figured it would be a waste to pay cover for just a little over an hour of sarging. I didn't anticipate that we'd end up doing just that at Cadillac Ranch.
We rolled into CR at like 11:40PM. Country music was playing and I felt out of place with my Hawaiian shirt, but the new alpha me showed no signs of caring. I remember reading that club music should start at midnight, but after talking to some people, I found out that didn't start until 2am. In the meantime, I was stuck with country music and line dancing.
Line Dancing:
I wish I knew how to line dance. It seems like that would be a huge way to DHV. There were a few girls that I could have pulled to the dance floor if I had the moves. I later found out that there are a few basic moves to line dancing, but apparently each song has a different set of moves. It sounds very complicated. I guess I should remember that the next time I feel conscious about my club dancing. Dancing, though, doesn't matter. The mASF people say that one should be talking to girls instead of wasting time dancing with them.
Blonde Lone Wolf Set turns into a mixed set:
Sidegames and I were talking. I felt a little approach anxiety but I knew I would feel horrible if I made no approached. I saw this blone and brunette standing at a table. (Why does it seem like that the type of set I always run into at a club?) I see the brunette get pulled to the dance floor so I decide to approach the blone. I open with this line I thought of today, "I want to get an opinion on something. If you could go anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would you go?" I then explain that Sidegames had that choice and almost went to Argentina but then decided not to go. We ended up talking for a bit, but then Sidegames come up to me. I introduce him and then I ask him what he's doing. He says that I told him to come up to a set after I had talked for a few minutes. I then whispered in his ear, "I meant to come up if it's a two set. Just go and I'll catch up to you. You're ruining my sarge."
I continued the sarge. This Asian guy then comes up that I had seen line dancing earlier. He and the blonde start talking. I open the guy because I know I have to disarm obstacles. I compliment him on being able to line dance and I ask him how he learned. Apparently, he owns some dance studio along with some other businesses, so he gives me his card. I talk to him for a few minutes as he tells me about this stuff. Obviously, I could care less, (well I'd consider getting line dancing lessons), but you always have to do this in a mixed set. I decided to eject after that for two reasons. First, I knew Sidegames was getting bored. I shoudln't care about that, but I guess that was part of my reasoning. Second, I still don't understand how to work mixed sets. I didn't know how I could keep gaming the blonde when this obstacle was here.
In retrospect, I guess the answer is that I should have BSed with the Asian guy some more. Then, I can reopen the chick and he shouldn't cockblock b/c I've disarmed him. I guess I just have to plow through some more mixed sets to get the hang of it. I definately shouldn't have ejected b/c I was doing okay with the blonde.
Edit:
I don't feel like editing it so this flows better, so I'll just add that I threw in my Crobar story. I made a joke about me not knowing it was country night. I told the story of how I took my friend who was in the Marines at the time to Crobar on Sunday night. Fortunately for us, he showed his miltary ID to the bouncer when we were trying to get in. The bouncer then commented, "You know it's gay night tonight, right?" If my buddy hadn't shown his military ID, we would have ended up paying the cover and would have left right away.
2-Set & Wing tactics:
I saw these two cute brunettes standing near the dance floor. I opened them with a situational opener about line dancing. They said that they were just learning how to line dance. I had them giggling and then I introduced Sidegames by saying, "This is my best friend Sidegames. He's the coolest guy on the planet and if you just spend 5 minutes talking to him, you'll see what I mean." Sidegames then just stand there. I lean over and tell him to ask her about line dancing. I then start to talk to my target. I see Sidegames ask a question and then he just stood there. His target then talks to my target and I know it's busted up so I just turn to Sidegames and start talking to him.
I don't blame Sidegames as he doesn't know any better. I'm glad we went out because I learned some things that will be helpful in future sarges with wings. First, it seems awkward to have my wing just standing there. I think if we approach together, I should do an opener and then introduce my wing. The wing then should occupy his target immediately and I should start my own conversation with my target. I can only do this simultaneous approach if I have a wing that will hold his target. I have to make it clear to wings that they have to keep talking to the target otherwise she's going to start talking to her friend and I'm going to lose the set. So far, only Seamas and Colorado can do this. (I haven't gone out with Colorado since that one time at AC, but I still think he can hold a target if given the chance.) The other idea follows something I found in an mASF search. I should open the set myself and hold it for a few minutes solo. Then, the wing should walk up and I can give him a good introduction. If I've held a set that long, the wing will have more leeway as the set will realize that I'm cool. I think this is the better approach since I can hold sets pretty well for five minutes.
Opened the set again:
I see one of the girls dancing with some old guy with a cowboy hat. The friend is trying to learn the steps. I know it would be money if I went out and joined her but I couldn't do it. I then see her give up and stand by herself near the dance floor. I go up and ask her why she gave up. I then tried to talk more. She seemed like she was receptive to talking to me, but then I see the friend come by with the guy and pull my target away. :(
I'm not sure what was up there. I'm guessing that I didn't demonstrate enough value with my opener so the friend thought she had to save my target. I guess it's their loss. They don't know what they are missing out on. I didn't even get to my good routines :)
